Find your starting point
Am I in a trauma bond?
Make room to understand your experience, one question at a time.
Begin with reflection.
Trauma bonding can involve a strong attachment to someone who harms you, especially when hurtful behavior is mixed with affection or relief. Missing someone alone does not establish a trauma bond.
These eight questions help you notice patterns. This is an educational reflection created by The N.O.W. Movement—not a validated screening test, diagnosis, or assessment of your safety.
- Choose what fits your experience. You may skip any question.
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- Your answers are not saved by this tool. Refreshing or leaving resets them.
Your reflection
One small next step
Your answers do not confirm or rule out a trauma bond or abuse. This tool cannot determine whether a relationship is safe. A qualified professional or relationship abuse advocate can help you explore your situation.
You do not need to buy anything to understand these results or seek support.
